Finals Thoughts on Women in Leadership

I just finished a week at the 21st Century Leadership Academy for Women in Public Life. Some of the take away points:

Be Fierce and Unapologetic
Women are far more likely than men to undercut their statements by apologizing or questioning their expertise. Say what you mean with conviction and don't apologize for going against the grain. If you stand up for what you believe and act ethically, there should be no reason to apologize.

Be Kind
Being unapologetic doesn't mean be cruel. Find empathy for other people and try to view the world as they do. The best leaders can connect with those they are leading. Even if there are people you simply cannot stand, fake a smile and at least be a decent human being. There is never a reason to burn bridges.

Don't Listen to Haters
There will always be someone telling you that you can't do something. Sometimes that person will even be yourself. Don't let it get you down. If possible use it to fuel your motivation, because it feels so good to prove them wrong later.

You Can't Have It All
Some of the most dynamic women I met this week, the ones that deeply impressed me, were very straight forward with their decision to skip a family and pursue their career first. None of them spoke of regret. They were so happy with their work that it didn't feel like a loss. Contrary to the myth the "unfulfilled business woman", it's possible to change priorities and not be miserable. That's not to say that the women with families weren't just as successful and happy, but there are other options.

When in Doubt, Turn to GaGa
"Some women choose to follow men and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you're wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you it doesn't love you anymore." - Lady Gaga